In todays blog, you will be reading a dialogue between P.O.A and Jahmal Hilaire.
For those of you that don't know, yes I do podcast and not alone but with friends. The name of our podcast is P.O.A (Young Leaders Podcast). We podcast to share our experience with young people that want to do better for themselves but I believe everyone can benefit from hearing the younger generation speak anyways.
In this podcast, we discussed self love, reasons why we should love ourselves, reasons why people don't love themselves and strategies to introduce self love to your daily routine. I took some points down as we discussed on the day and I will be sharing it with you. Now I understand that everyone may have their own view on self love as this is a broad topic but I ask that you have a open mind towards this subject same as I did because in doing that, I learned a lot.
First of all... What is self love? Self love is defined as having high regards for your own well-being and happiness. It means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your own well-being to please other. It also means not settling for less than you deserve.
As we discussed, a point was actual brought up and this stuck to me. Self love is also about perspective, it's a personal thing. Things that could be self love to me can be bazaar to someone else. To me self love can be training so hard and pushing myself to extreme limits but to someone else, that can be just madness.
We also had our own opinions on reasons why people may not love themselves. We all came to a conclusion that in this day and age, social media is the igniter of self hate. Sometimes we look at social media and see peoples exciting stories or successful lives and try to compare then when we see we don't have what they have, sometimes we have the tendency of feeling like we are not good enough. At this point, it is important to acknowledge that we are all on our own journeys and we cannot afford to lose focus by looking someone else start up or end goal. We must focus on our own path. Most of the time we just care what people think way too much or are not comfortable in our own insecurities. This is common with the young generation because of ... Again, social media! At this point it is important to take a step back and address those insecurities that CAN be controlled and for the ones that cannot be controlled, we must embrace it and understand that it is a part of us. Learn to love yourself despite the uncontrollable insecurity.
What do you do to feel self love again if you slip up?
Be authentic and real with yourself. If you feel like there is something about yourself you don't like, don't hate yourself for it instead work on yourself and rid of the insecurities. When I was younger, I was a bit chubby and insecure about taking my shirt off in public or as I do now and guess what I did? I addressed the issue by being strict with my diet and training until I got to the stage I am in now. BE REAL WITH YOURSELF!
Another thing that was brought up was express yourself through your passion. When you do this, you feel like there is a weight lifted off your shoulder, you feel happier. Jahmal express his passion for dance, helping people, modelling just by doing the things he loves. He also mentioned having an open communication with yourself to figure out what is wrong and why you feel negativity towards yourself then write down at least 5 things you can do to feel love within yourself and that could reducing screen time on your phone, spend more time with yourself and just make it a habit to feel love within yourself because the way you feel about yourself can impact the people around you. As they say, you have to love yourself before you can love others.
There were many points discussed in this podcast but I will allow you to listen to it without spoiling it for you. Have a listen.
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